Ask Me How I Feel  (A Fibromyalgia Poem)

Ask Me How I Feel       
       But please allow me to change the subject quickly.  Some days I would rather not talk about my troubles.
Ask Me How I Feel
       Just be prepared to listen if you ask.  Occasionally I need a sympathetic ear.  This may be that occasion.
Ask Me How I Feel
       And if I choose to share my pain with you, please don’t respond with false cheer.  It only emphasizes how different    your world is from mine.
Ask Me How I Feel       
       But don’t be quick to offer me advice.  Know that I am always processing information about my illness and that feeling better is my ultimate goal.
Ask Me How I Feel
       And if you’re also hurting, please tell me.  It helps me to know that my problems are not unique.  And comforting you helps me feel better about me.
Ask Me How I Feel       
       And please understand that although I am always interested in what you have to say, I listen better on my good days.
Ask Me How I Feel       
       And ask me often. You’ll be surprised at my responses.  I may be having a very good day - but you won’t know if you don’t ask.
Ask Me How I Feel
       And on my good days let’s celebrate by making happy memories that help me through the days that aren’t so good.
          And above all, Ask Me How I Feel
       Because it’s the only way I know that you care.  I am always grateful for your asking even when I fail to tell you so.

Christine Danella, Author Tender Points: A Fibromyalgia Memoir                                                       Copyright 2007